From: Timko, Terry M
Sent: Saturday, June 11, 2016 11:51 AM
Subject: Maura Update - Saturday June 11th

OK this is probably going to be another run on email so don’t feel compelled to read it all.

Short version:
The story is becoming one of an epic journey.  At the close of this chapter, we did not get the news we were hoping for.  The biopsy results showed the very bad cancer and they removed one of the 3 tumors via a craniotomy.  The clinical diagnosis is multi-focal glioblastoma (I don’t recommend googling this).

We are going to fight this thing and walk it out as the Father leads us.  We have had some good cries, are being supported by great friends and I’m sure will have our ups and downs on this journey.  While we don’t understand God’s plan in this (I think it is a pretty crappy plan and I’ve told him so) we are faithful that he will give us what we need and are confident he will be glorified.

The next chapter is about healing followed by 6 weeks of radiation and chemo in about 4 weeks.  It is also about growth for all of us including our boys and a bit of getting back to life and work with a bit more focus on what is important and intentionality if that is possible.

We still believe he can heal her supernaturally (I know that sounds weird to many on this list) or through modern medicine - I really don’t care which.  We also know that this may not be his plan and we will get through this with all the grace, strength and faith he has given us.

I know many of you want to visit and show your support but please do not come and visit us in the hospital.  Maura is in the ICU, medicated and not getting much sleep.  Not really up for visitors.  We should be home in a few days. (I know right).

Longer Version:
I am so blessed to have this woman as my partner in this life and am honored to walk this out with her.  As any mom would be she is more worried about her boys, her mom and me than she is herself.   We are going to take this thing head on, live intentionally, worship and cherish every moment with and for all of you.

When she came out of surgery she was admittedly angry and sad, her spirits lifted so much when she saw her boys – that was beautiful to see.  I was amazed by how quickly her outlook turned around – she is stronger than me.  In speaking with Daniel later he said he would expect nothing less from his mom.

I was so blessed to have Maura’s dear friends Ginger and Lisa with me at the hospital yesterday.  I can’t imaging getting this news alone.  Thank you even more to my guys who came after work to support me.

You guys are my brothers and this will be OK.  Hard but OK.

{this was definitely the low point in this journey for me, even more so than Maura's passing 13 months later}

Again for physical needs reach out to Janet and Jeff {contact info deleted} we really don’t need meals but the boys have been blessed by baked goods J (Thanks Lydia!)

More detail for those that could use it:
The tumor they removed is the one from the scan I shared about a week ago and near her speech center.  The surgery went really well and I don’t see much additional impact to her communications.  There are 2 other tumors, one in her corpus callosum which has grown since the initial MRI 3 weeks ago (I miss-spoke yesterday when I said 2 weeks ago) and another very small one which has not grown in her right frontal lobe near the surface.  The 3rd tumor can be easily removed if it grows given its location.  The second one not so much.

The can’t do radiation until her brain is healed so we should get a 4 week break of relative normalcy.  She is in a lot of pain now and is well medicated – they said this should subside over the next 1 to 2 weeks.  The Chemo and radiation for this cancer are not that intense and our prayer is her tumors respond to the treatment.  We are going to look into clinical trials and other options, having already connected w/ the Mayo Clinic and MD Anderson in Houston.

Communications:
I’m using this one communication to updated everybody.  There are now >170people on the various lists which I’ve essentially merged to simplify communication for me.  Please note responding to all goes to all 170+ people and I’d like to be careful not to fill people inboxes.  These lists were set up several weeks ago to keep our friends, family and community updated.  Given how this has grown, how long this has and will go on and the fact that not everyone needs as many updates, I’m going to do some maintenance over the next week to the lists to even things out.  Don’t be surprised if you get removed from and added to a new list.  I may also move away from Google groups.


Terry

Climb - Will Reagan

I lean not on my own understanding
My life is in the hands of the Maker of Heaven
I give it all to You, God
Trusting that You’ll make something beautiful out of me
I will climb this mountain with my hands wide open
There’s nothing I hold onto
If I had to choose one song that symbolized this journey and brought us the most comfort it would be this one. It was a constant in our lives since Janet brought it to us in the hospital back in May of 2016. I will forever think of this as Maura's anthem as it so clearly represents her approach to cancer and life in general